As we know the many benefits if we are brave and independent child (read the previous article), and how to keep the child but the courage and self-reliant? in this paper we try to discuss tips to train children brave and independent. We need to understand that in order to train the bold and independent it should be run simultaneously, and parents as coaches should be aware also that it was not instant, requires a process and time. Now what to do to train it;
1. Cultivate the "basic trust"
Every baby is actually already have a basic trust, but when he was a toddler that a parent should give a positive response to the needs of the child. This can increase the feeling of "trust" of the infants and toddlers will feel safe also in life. Well, feeling safe / secure, toddlers will be more courageous in facing the challenges before him. Self will also be formed as well as completing the problem.
2. Give "responsibility" or belief in children
When we see / feel your child doing something that we think he can do, should we give him a chance to do it yourself. For example when he finished eating and want to put a plate in the sink, we can give him that opportunity and do not forbid it if we feel he's capable of and do not be too worried as well (eg, fear of rupture because it was expensive). Provide an opportunity and trust to him like that can make children brave and independent as well.
3. Instantiate
Children will always follow the example, this also applies when we want our children brave and independent. If parents have such a closed personality does not like doing new things, afraid to face the challenge should not expect too much by having babies grow courageous and independent personality. Suppose we want children to learn to swim while the parents of his own fear into the water, this is certainly something that will produce maximum. By giving a concrete example to the child, the child will understand and the easier he is to imitate it. But if parents do not or could not give a concrete example to your child, you should not show "fear" to the child, either directly or indirectly.
4. Do not force
Everything we do to train the courage and independence of children and the process takes time, it can develop slowly, so do we force the child to master everything that is taught on the spot. For example to train children to always wake up immediately shower, do not force your child to master that moment that, take a few days until smooth. Parents are always accompanied by and remind the child to do the right thing is. But keep in mind that not too often / hard to criticize the child because it would make the guts / courage of the child will go down / down.
5. Do not overload
Keep in mind that the steps that can be passed by the child is growing gradually, so that the stimulus given to the child should be well adapted to the development of the child. If too much stimulus will make the child confused and will lose the courage to do something.
6. Setting appropriate boundaries with
We still have to impose limits what can be done by our children, but the ban is given it must be accompanied by a logical reason. For example when the child is practicing his bravery by playing on the terrace outside the home, parents should not frighten the children with things that are not understandable / logical by the child, for example, says ghost's child will be harassed or bitten by a dog, and so on. Fear will be captured by the brain as the true reality and the child will not dare come out from the terrace of his house, will eventually affect her courage and independence.
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